EP 54: Raccoons, Foxes, and Litterboxes with Skylar - Part 1
- Traci Kanaan introduces Skylar Calico, a fan favorite, and mentions this is Skylar's third session.
- Skylar Calico jokes about her "time blindness" and mentions her social media and financial success.
- Skylar discusses her burnout and constant internal voice of her mother telling her she will fail.
- Skylar shares an example of her mother's negative influence when Skylar was excited about buying a car.
- Skylar describes her mother's criticism about her appearance, including her lips and boobs.
- Skylar talks about her mother's insecurity and anxiety, which she has inherited.
- Skylar mentions her mother's habit of projecting her own insecurities onto Skylar.
- Skylar shares a memory of her mother not being able to tell her she loves her, which still haunts her.
- Skylar explains her decision to go no contact with her mother in December and the reasons behind it.
- Skylar mentions her mother's realization that she needed to work on herself to avoid messing up her younger brother.
- Skylar talks about her mother's history of favoritism towards her adopted sisters and the fear of replacement.
- Skylar shares a traumatic memory of her mother giving away her dog on her 14th birthday.
- Skylar discusses the generational trauma from her grandmother and how it influenced her mother's parenting.
- Skylar recounts a traumatic experience of being hospitalized and her parents stripping her room of everything.
- Skylar talks about her mother's attempts to commit her and the legal action against her.
- Skylar mentions her brother's similar behaviors and diagnoses, and how her parents have learned from their mistakes.
- Skylar describes her mother's controlling behavior during movie outings and the anxiety it caused.
- Skylar shares how her mother's anxiety and reactions have shaped her social interactions and expectations.
- Skylar talks about her fear of being punished and the impact of her mother's reactions on her relationships.
- Skylar mentions her mother's tendency to weaponize everything and the silent treatment as a reaction to being asked to take a break from an argument.
- Skylar expresses her desire to not hear her mother's voice in her head during interactions with others.
- Skylar wants to be able to communicate without fear of her mother's reactions.
- Skylar talks about her tendency to jump to aggression and defensiveness and her desire to change that.
- Skylar mentions her admiration for people who are sweet and nurturing, like her adoptive mother and Bambi Wild.
- Skylar describes Bambi Wild as a sweet, humble, and down-to-earth person who has a capacity for violence but doesn't use it.
- Skylar talks about her admiration for Bambi's career and her nurturing nature.
- Skylar mentions Raven as another role model but notes that Raven has a quicker switch to aggression than Skylar.
- Skylar expresses her desire to be like Bambi, sweet and nurturing, but also capable of defending herself if necessary.
- Skylar explains the significance of raccoons and foxes as symbols of adaptability and resilience.
- Skylar shares her love for animals and how these creatures embody qualities she values in herself.
- Skylar talks about the adaptability of raccoons and foxes and how they can survive anywhere.
- Skylar mentions her raccoon tattoo as a reminder of her ability to adapt and make do with what she has.
- Traci Kanaan explains the goal of the session: breaking up patterns in Skylar's head and moving towards a desired life.
- Traci introduces the concept of the "two space" and how it can help Skylar stay centered and grounded.
- Skylar describes her admiration for people who are in the "two space" and how it helps them navigate interactions.
- Skylar talks about her desire to be in the "two space" and not be hyper-vigilant or defensive in her interactions.
- Traci and Skylar discuss the importance of creating a positive self-image and reinforcing desired traits.
- Skylar talks about her tendency to reinforce negative traits and the need to focus on positive ones.
- Skylar expresses her desire to be sweet, nurturing, and capable of diplomatic conversations.
- Skylar mentions her admiration for people who are kind and humble, and her goal to embody those traits.
